A Belgian man recently got the shock of his life when he found out that his wife of 19 years was actually born a man.
The man, who would only go by the name Jan, married his wife Monica in 1993 after she had been a babysitter for his family during his previous marriage. Because she was not from Belgium, immigration authorities made it difficult for Jan to marry her, but he did it anyway.
It was only in 2012 that Jan found out that his wife had been born a man and had undergone a sex change.
“I feel I’ve been assaulted,” he told the local newspaper. “I brought her to Belgium. That was not easy. The Belgian courts had serious doubts about the authenticity of her birth and her identity papers, but eventually they accepted it anyway. I thought she was an attractive woman, all woman. She had no male traits.”
Jan, who is now 64, said that he and Monica decided not to have children since he already had two from his previous marriage. Monica would also pretend to menstruate using sanitary towels in order to “conceal the truth.”
“Even during sex, I never noticed anything,” he lamented, according to The Telegraph.
The couple had a happy life for many years, and 48 year-old Monica was like a “big sister” to Jan’s children. However, when Monica got a full time job, everything changed.
“Monica began to change very much,” Jan recounted. “My oldest son saw her sometimes at a nightclub. She began to wear very flashy clothes, those ultra-short skirts or tiny tops, so her abdomen was completely exposed.”
When he found messages from other men on Monica’s computer, Jan confronted her, and their fight got so violent that police were called in. It was only then that Jan learned the truth…
“A friend told me that he had heard that Monica was actually a sex-changed man. I could not believe it. My son heard similar rumors,” he said. “I pushed her against the wall and said: Now I know the truth. Are you a man? She then announced that she was born as a boy and that she had been operated on. She was now a woman, and so she did not need to tell me about her past as a man. My world collapsed. That evening came to blows. The police came.”
Jan is currently in counseling and has filed legal proceedings to get the marriage annulled. However, the courts have not allowed him to force Monica out of their home.
“That person has deliberately deceived him for years, even scammed. Presumably she has also forged documents used here to get a residence permit,” said Liliane Verjauw, Jan’s lawyer. “The children, who for years have lived with her, are devastated.”
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